second.

princples learned:
1. teach children why they are being punished instead of just punishing them/spanking them
2. don't let the children by the parents (obviously)

apply these principles:
when i am angry w/ someone let him/her know why isntead of keeping it "confidential"

teach: to james and josh

report:
josh (my brother-in-law) says that once his kids know the meaning of sasa (samoan word for 'spank') then there will be no trouble. however, both agree that teaching children why they are being punished instead of just punishing is a good idea. i won't have children for a few years, but i hope that when i do i can parent effectively.