twenty-fourth.

principles learned:

• 1. to achieve empathy
• a. rephrase content of what was said
• b. reflect back feeling
• c. not always are both needed to make empathy
• 2. people's motives for wanting to cheer us up
• a. others being upset make us feel uncomfortable in the situation
• b. will give example from autobiography to make everything happy again
• 3. difference between interpreting and evaluating
• a. interpreting is judging in reference to one's mental condition/behavior
• b. evaluating is judging whether one is right or wrong in a situation
  

apply these principles:

• 1. work on being an empathic listener
• 2. when someone i know is down, concentrate on not making them feel better only for my benefit
• 3. recognize the difference between when i am interpreting, and when i am evaluating

teach: to james

report:
together james and i realized that it is common knowledge that we try to make people feel better only because when feeling sad makes us feel uncomfortable. as much as it is our own motives to uplifting someone's attitudes, we rarely recognize that we are doing so just to help ourselves feel better. together we decided to try to concentrate on understanding and reflecting on eachothers feelings when either of us are feeling an emotion that the other does not relate to.